Think back to your first days at your kid’s school. For me, it was so big and overwhelming that I had to be brave just walking up the ramp that first day of Kindergarten. I didn’t know where to go and what to do. I didn’t know a lot of parents – only the ones who came from our small pre-school. It was a little scary. I remember hearing a bunch of parents talking about booster clubs and PTA – I went to a bunch of meetings. I never remembered faces, but it felt like all the moms were named Cindy.
For a lot of parents, this is their first big step into this whole world. You may ask, “What can I offer? What ideas can I bring to the group that won’t rock the boat?” When you’re new to a school, there are certain procedures in place you may not know about. There are parents who tell you “this is the way it’s always been done.” That can be really frustrating. It can be like hitting a brick wall. You have so many ideas to share and so many ways to make the school better – if only someone would listen.
Though it may be tough, try to single out one parent who seems to be very involved. You will see their faces at every meeting! You will find them on the playground talking to a lot of parents. It will feel a lot like high school and the popular kids. Here’s a tip: Be brave! Ask him or her to go out to coffee and then try to share your excitement and enthusiasm. It won’t always be easy to stand and wait while they are speaking with other people. Do it anyway. Dig deep. I know it’s sometimes easier said than done!
I understand those butterflies-in-the-stomach feelings. I’ve been there, and so have the parents you’re trying to talk to. You can do this. Push through and be determined. Ignore the butterflies and stand strong. You can be heard and make a difference. Don’t be so enthusiastic that parents think you’re crazy…that could backfire.
There is a delicate balance here and it may take some trial and error, but be brave. Let those “popular kids” help you find your way in. If they’re smart, they will bring you in and help you help the school. It doesn’t happen overnight though. This will take time. Be patient. Your bravery and determination will shine through and pay off in the long run – for you and hopefully the school too.
All it takes is time. You can and will find your way…and then, after you’ve become involved and active, you’ll be able to help someone else who is reaching out to YOU. I love the pay it forward concept, don’t you?
Stay Brave!
Sarah
Sarah has been fundraising for schools since 2008. She is the author of A Mom’s Guide to School Fundraising and has consulted for several schools and clubs. She has been featured on RetailMeNot.com, Scholastic: Parent & Child and The New York Times. She thinks all kids should be able to have a well-rounded education, team uniforms, instruments and support. Don’t you?